Making Executive Decisions

Making Executive Decisions

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Hey what’s up PinkShaders!

I know its been a hot minute and maybe since I last posted but your girl has been cooking up some projects that are manefesting themselves into something really exciting. I also celebrated my 25th birthday on a private beach in Ghana (may not be much of deal to some of you but it was the best birthday I ever had! Vlog available on my YouTube channel). So what’s been holding me up? I’ve been working on maximising my potential to better myself (reference to my #BOSSChallenge click here to see my latest travel and subscribe to my channel! xxx

For the past 2 months or so, I’ve picked up another blogging gig at Final Call Production and have started a master programme in International Business Management. This is in addition to my YouTube channel (which I know has had a few delays but will explain further below), still mentoring young people and working on a few secret projects *wink*. These are just a few examples of my initiatives to make an executive decision for my own personal life  and is a choice to pursue the things I know and hope, will spark something in future.

Now on to what this blog post is really about….

Those around me would have heard me say this a thoussand times and probably even more. It’s litterally been my personal tagline/ motto for the year and honestly an encouragement to help me make direct decisions and take responsibility of my own actions, life and future. I cannot stress how important it is to take responsibility on making decisions that affect YOUR own life.

Up until 2 years ago, I used to be told what to do and blame any mishaps on those who had a bigger say on what I ought to do with MY LIFE, MY GOALS and MY DREAMS.


As an Executive or BOSS of your life.

One of my favourite bible quotes that I translate into my own words (and totally applicable to this concept) is “You reap what you sew”. In other words you make a decision + you put the energy in = you reap the benefit.
If you decide to reap whatever without actually putting any energy in, you’re not exercising control and in that sense arr runnning on sheer luck and total reliance on the energy of others… trust me your luck will run out and what you expect may turn out to be the complete opposite to what you really want or need.

Another reason why executive decisions making is so important in life, is because, I’m tired of re-doing the things that aren’t up to my standards. Delegating work is part of the job of being an executive. And if you are able to demonstrate that ability successfully and up to your standards, then kudos to you. However,
when you have a goal that is not common with the person(s) you are deligating the task to, then the likelihood of achieving the same common goal is slim or barely existent.
In fact quite often (and be sure to let me know if you have experienced the same thing).. I have come to realise that whenever I trust someone with the most important project/ high level task to complete something, I often find myself having to re-do or takeover the work because it didn’t meet my qualities and thus realise that I am relying on others to do what I can do better and my way.

Now, 2017 is already coming to an end and the question I have for you is, are you not tired of being let down by people whom you have relied one too many responsibilities that are way too important to you? At this moment in our life, we need to think.. “what is that one thing holding me up from reaching that set goal?” and what different course of actioms will I need to pursue to ensure that I am no longer delayed.

Sit yourself down today and make that executive decision to hold yourself more accountable to your life and what you wish to achieve in the month or even year(s) to come.

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The Plot Twist of Practicing Patience

The Plot Twist of Practicing Patience

Sometimes what you thought you really wanted and thought you really needed wasn’t actually what you wanted nor needed. The act of practicing patience is a skill on it’s own. It’s a combination between mental preparation, mental action, physical action, emotional action and preparation. You see you start off by setting yourself a goal or target to change or achieve something but rather than providing a specific time limit, time is what will limit you from achieving just want you desire. Instead of placing pressure to achieve what you want, the role is reversed where you work towards your goal at your own pace and allow time to manifest itself until you obtain your goal. Patience is never rushed and can never be rushed. You will become frustrated and angry before feeling encompassed with the will to give up and lose hope. Patience is an active journey that feels inactive. It teaches you to learn your way through the struggles, the complications, confusions and mishaps.

The best way to practice patience is to meditate. take a step out of the hustle and busy environment, which is clouding your perceptions and the vision to seeing your goal.

B R E A T H E . Let time take it’s cause. Stop stressing, just focus on your goal and gradually take a step towards it each day and before you know it you’re there.

Now if you’re reading this and wondering why I twisted the plot. Well, I realised that the journey and act of practicing patience will sometimes throw a plot twist along your way to see if you really know what you want and whether when something half as good or slightly different to what you had hope for, would sway your vision and change your goal? If so, did you find something better or did you lower your bar just because it almost fit the criteria of your goal? If you gave in to something lower than your anticipated goal, you may want to reconsider your choice because your journey to practicing patience has just added another plot twist and is not yet completed.

 

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Spring Cleaning My Act

Spring Cleaning My Act

Hey Pink Shaders! Happy Easter to you all!

Spring is finally here! And I am already feeling free-spirited, just because the days are longer and the sun is finally out. Now, you’re probably wondering why it’s been a while since I last posted and I would first of all would like apologise for my absence. I’m here to spring clean my act with a reason. Not an excuse because excuses are tools used by the incompetent right?!

Well, after posting my ‘Transitioning into 2017’ post, I realised that in order to make my 2017 the most amazing year of my life thus far, it meant that I had to create a few achievable projects and events to make my journey through out the year a little challenging but also fun and exciting. With that being said. I created my vision board for 2017, which outlined my goals and objectives for this year through images that will redirect my focus whenever I felt a little discourage. Some of the things I placed on my vision board seemed a little farfetched, such as earning £53,716, writing a book or producing a movie but those were images to inspire me to aim high, no matter what. My overall goal is to achieve at least 90% or if not all. Again its all achievable, only if I work hard towards it and keep myself motivated until I attain what I want and beyond.

So to start myself off, I rebooked my driving test. This would have counted as my 5 test (6th including the one I accidentally booked and forgot about because I had school exams). I was nervous because I hated to be told that I had failed again and nobody loves that feeling. I tried to remain calm and keep everything simple during the test. In the back of my mind I was already telling myself that everything happens for a reason so don’t stress about the result but to keep going until it’s over. Low and behold I passed my driving test and was able to tick off 1 thing on my 2017 vision board in January!  After receiving my license, I felt even more motivated to take time off from work to travel, and so I came across some really cheap tickets to Kansas, about a week before spring break for less than £500. Prices to Kansas are generally around £600- 700, so I knew that this was a sign that I was just meant to go away. Also, I thought it would be a great opportunity to visit some my friends and head out for Spring Break in Miami.

Now a 100 days into my B.O.S.S Challenge, I realised that my Spring Break trip might just be the time and place to allow me to demonstrate how far I’ve come with my positivity cleanse. As some of you may know, Miami is a place where you need to be confident in your own skin and be ready to have fun while trying out new things. I kind of knew about that fact but probably not to that level of extent that I encountered!

If you are in tune with my YouTube channel (Thalie Brown) you would have seen my attempt to vlog using my phone. It was fun vlogging but it sure was difficult to balance vlogging and enjoying the moment. Also at some points, my shots were all over the place or I completely forgot to vlog the event entirely *hides face*. But I know, it was a great learning experience, to which I know that I would have preferred to have a proper camera and stand rather than holding my phone in my hand because I would always look at my camera and remember its purpose. Nevertheless, Miami was great! We stayed  in Wynwood, Miami, which was about 10 min from downtown Miami and about 20 -25 min from South Beach. I had the chance to show off my inner B.O.S.S by comfortably wearing bikinis all day and less cover-ups. Although it took a bit of getting used to before I was able to get in an uber with my kaftan covering my bikini or flaunting my British accent, just get free entries or meet Mariahlynn from Love and Hip Hop and feature on her Snapchat and vise a versa. If anything, I think Miami was by far the best trip I have ever been to but it might be a little early to say since I have another trip lined up for me.

If you would like to see more of my Spring Break vlog videos, click on this link here:

In terms of working on my brand. I believe that I have had an epiphany on how to develop and establish my brand. I have been blessed to have met a few creative designers, who are keen to help me build my brand and respectively help me identify my career goal. Now it’s up to me and my efforts, to achieve this dream, which I believe will inspire and support young people in many shapes and forms. I know I’m probably not making much sense at the moment but all will be revealed in due time.

Overall, Spring so far has been refreshing. I feel a lot happier and positive than I was a few months ago, and have been able to challenge myself with life changing goals. I am hoping that in the next month or 2, I will be able to tick off at least 2 more goals on my vision board. But only time will tell.

Transitioning into 2017

Transitioning into 2017

Happy New Year Pink Shaders,

It’s fair to say that like any other year, there have been some highs and lows. We have seen great legends pass away, the rise of in justice to sexuality, race and even gender. The divide amongst humanity was the most popular headline throughout 2016.

A non- factual election, which saw the 2 oldest presidential candidate of a powerful nation use social media and tit-for-tat strategy to pounce on their opponent, instead of elaborating on their strategies to help the environment, unify communities, develop the economy and the list goes on.

But then in 2016, there were some great moments. The year saw some amazing successes, the rise in female empowerment,  Black Girl Magic and world records being broken. Above all the greatest lesson to top it all off is that you can beat all obstacles, regardless of your qualification (this is a reference to sports not just politics).

Now that we are in 2017, everyone is trying to live up to their new years resolution and that’s great. But are you coming prepared with the correct mentality? The issues you faced in 2016 did not just magically erase itself as soon as it hit midnight. Oh no! So ask yourself, what struggles, moods or perceptions did I have in 2016 that still require a better understanding or transformation in me? What ideas did I have during 2016 that I never got to pursue because of lame excuses like time, motivation or resources? I say this because we are all born with the same starter pack in life- 24hrs, a brain to think and our body. Now think of ways to improve 2016 self in 2017. That way you are being more realistic with yourself and  you’ll feel more in charge of goals you hope to achieve, bare in mind this will encourage you to have a positive mindset to living a better life.

For 2017, it is my hope for all of us to come together in peace. I know a lot people are living in fear, especially for those targeted by some of these new appointed leaders and their capability destruct. We need to work as a supportuve community and become more educated and willing to understand differences. I also hope that 2017 will bring great self- development, especilly for those who had a rough time through 2016.

It’s time we make 2017 a good year. Not for our own reasons but for all. I know for myself, I want to see more confidence in me.  I have spent a little more than  what was due, being shy and scared to reach out for things that I was scared to let down.

Remember,

“when they go low we go high. And when they go high, we go low”

– Michelle Obama –

Love thy neighbour and yourself

Love thy neighbour and yourself

​I’ve recently noticed how easily I get mad at myself when things don’t go right. I blame myself for making the little mistakes, which result to greater mishaps such as grabbing a bottle of water from the fridge, only to realise that it was actually in the pantry. Those extra steps would therefore cause further delays in me missing my first bus and unevetably my second and third bus for work. On the contrary, I found it a lot easier to forgive others who have either done wrong to me or let me down in situations whereby I desperately needed their support. 

This form of dissatisfaction can easily lead to further consequences like laxk of self respect, distust as well as creatibg new fears, causing more harm to yourself and possibly lead to depression and anxiety. So to break this self- destructive path of mine, I’m making a conscious decision to make peace with myself and to appreciate the positive and negative events that occur in life.

The reason why I decided to give this segment  this title is because I believe it is just as important to forgive yourself as it is to forgive others around you. It’s this notion of finding your balance and that peace that you have with you inner self and the outside environment. Be it the physical environment ie nature, the location and or society, mental, emotional and the spiritual environment that we are constantly surrounded by.

Life’s Journey

Life’s Journey

So today at church I had the privilege of presenting a bible scripture that means a lot to me from the Church Family Bible. I decided to focus on Matthew 6:6-14, which is the model prayer that Jesus used to teach his disciples how to pray.
6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. 7 And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. 8 Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.
9 “This, then, is how you should pray:
“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10 your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us today our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,[a]
but deliver us from the evil one.[b]’
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Sometimes in life we get too carried away with the things occurring in our day to day life, that we forget to give ourselves a break.
Our hearts and minds go through storms of highs and lows, effectively clouding our judgements on what our actual needs are from our desires. To spend a brief moment in quietness and having that encounter with God is sometimes all that is needed to balance yourself out. God knows what’s best for us because our future was planned way ahead of us. And so when we come to Him, he provides us with our daily dosage of mental, emotional, physical and spiritual food, to keep us going to achieve the things we were destined to do.
And whilst we are on our journey to achieving our destiny, we need to learn to “travel lightly”. Unpack all your worries, your anger and frustrations that you have with other people who have done you wrong INCLUDING OURSELVES. The heavier the load the slower you will be because YOUR LOAD IS JUST TOO MUCH! Give it all too God and let Him deal with it! All of it!
My time with God is spent whilst I’m on my way to work and on my way back. When do you spend your time with God?
Gratitude

Gratitude

Such a simple word that is often defined with words like being “thankful” and “satisfied”. Yet it is one of the hardest words to act out in every living scenario. I mean how many times have you asked and prayed or worked tirelessly for something you wanted so bad, only to be blessed with something that is not quite what you were looking for but it did the job? I bet you it’s been many times! But out of those moments, how many times did you feel content or even excited with your blessings?

See, true and honest gratitude in my eyes is being truly content and satisfied with your blessings. Notice how I said ‘blessings’. It’s because it always comes in a bundle lie a 2 for 1 deal.

Gratitude is not easily practiced and I can vouch for that. It has taken me several months (almost a year) to even try to grasp the concept, as I embarked on my journey on trying to reconnect with my inner self.  You see I was mad at myself for letting myself go in the first place and allowing external features (ie other people, finances, education and geographical location), to control the life that I have to live. More so, I was mad at the sense that I was living a life that tore me away from what I thought would enable me to reconnect with the things I enjoyed doing, such asha going out with my friends, going out to events, shopping or working out 3 times a week.  It was the notion of living in the next town that had busses running to and fro from my university town until 7pm that made me feel like i was being punished. Not only that, I was unaware of the blessing of having a part-time job with the university, whereby my Managers were flexible with my hours. 

Nevertheless, little did I know that by taking myself away from any of the temptations of beings young free woman by going out on a regular basis and focusing less on my education, I probably wouldn’t have the ability to manage my time wisely.  Nor do I believe that I would have acquired the professional attitude that I have today, to deal with difficult clients. In addition to that, I gradually got to understand that the long 15 minute walk between my house and the bus stop, was basically my morning ritual to appreciate nature and be thankful for having this moment of being able to live and breathe one more day.

Sometimes we get so caught up in what we thought life would be if life was like this. And so we work hard, sometimes aimlessly towards this goal, and then the result ends up not entirely matching our estimated goal or maybe not at all. So we become discontent by the situation, allowing further negativity to enter our minds and our paths, without even realising. So as time progresses, we either continue to fight fate or give up on ourselves by contesting our minds with statements like “oh that’s is never going to happen now that…” Or ” I really don’t know why I even decided to even bother with this, it was going to go this way anyway”. But that is not always the case. In every case there es a distinct reason as to why you landed in this situation. Maybe it was something that you asked for that wasn’t properly communicated or perhaps, this is your “training” season to prepare you for what is about to come your way (either what you were hoping for or something better than what you anticipated). But to find out this purpose, you need to be content with what you have or have been given for now. Once you have entirely settled with this contentment and have come to terms that this is what it is right now, you will start to understand each “failed” reason.

In all what I am trying to say is that gratitude= being gracious with attitude.

Everything happens for a reason but it’s down to you, to be happy with what you have, before another door of opportunity is opened up for you. So don’t beat yourself down. Start by saying “thank you” to all the good and bad moments and trust me, you will gradually start to see your life differently from your “control room”.