Learning To Appreciate The People I Am Jealous Of

Learning To Appreciate The People I Am Jealous Of

Hey what’s up Pinkshaders,
Honestly, with all the things are happening around us, it’s a shame that as various communities we are unable to get together, work together and support one another. This week, I started a new job and after a year of struggling to find something that felt right for me, I was glad that the struggle search was finally over. But as I was saying, we really need to learn to come together and support one another in our communities. I have spent countless hours on social media looking at the success of my peers and feeling somewhat sorry for myself because while, they are excelling, I am still struggling to figure myself out. I’m seeing friends sharing the stage with big artists, hosting MTV awards, launching their websites, producing films and so forth, while I’ve been at home, trying to find a new job to hold me through. I could have been salty (jealous). I could have been angry and spiteful. But that was not the case. one early Saturday morning, as the sun began to rise, I woke up feeling very blessed and had the urge to send words of encouragement and acknowledge them for their success in working towards their dreams. I honestly don’t know what came over me at that point in time and for some of these individuals, I haven’t spoken to them in a really long time, so it definitely would have been a really random message for them receive but having gone through my BOSS Challenge journey, I knew that I had to be the sister and let them know that I support them and encourage them to continue pursuing even though I may be far away.
In life we go through struggles as part of the growing process. Our struggles are what make our personal stories unique. It really isn’t worth trying to live by life of the same person you intend to live like, nor to try to copy the life of your peers because it’s not possible to follow their life minute by minute for what they have experienced. Not everyone or should I say nobody will ever be able to explain or tell you the exact accounts of all their struggles they encountered  because a) some information is disclosed to themselves and therefore a secret but b) because they forget some emotions or exact thoughts they have had.
So rather than trying to be someone you’re not or hating on people for what they are achieving, we need to come together and acknowledge one another’s success. That way we are able to build better relationships with each other and help our communities. Essentially, in this process, by acknowledging what they have done, I also partly felt like I could add to their success, just because I showed my support.
My challenge for you this week, is to send that really heartfelt message to the person you have admired for achieving the things they have done and if you honestly want to be there for them let them know.
Peace… Inner Peace💙

Peace… Inner Peace💙

PEACE… such a simple and calm word yet so difficult to accomplish, especially in this day and age where it seems to be anything and everything going on at the same time. Achieving inner peace is just another hurdle to overcome in the current social, technological and economic environment. Nowadays, it’s difficult to spend some quality time alone because society tries to get us involved in either interact with one another on a number of trending issues through the ones close to you or through social media, which is driven through technological device like mobile phones, laptops, TV, tablets you name it. With technology becoming ever increasingly smarter and convenient to users, many of us result to spending quality time alone with our devices, to either search for inspiring information to stay positive, or treating oneself to a treat through online purchases, rather than developing your own inspiration from within. Furthermore, by being surrounded by all these distractions, it can become quite overwhelming, in realising what your mind, body and soul are actually longing for, in order to feel at peace.

The aim of achieving inner peace, is to peacefully care for yourself by replenishing your spirit, distress and give yourself the time to heal. Achieving inner peace is a process that takes you on a journey to experience and enjoy your own personal journey, particularly when recovering from a mental or emotional trauma. 

So if attaining inner peace is about staying away from all these different types of distractions, how is it possible to achieve this alone time with any given circumstances?

Well, the message is in the time. Inner peace is achieved after a period of time, which is spent alone in tranquillity to connect with yourself (mind, body and soul). Some may result to meditation either for religious reasons or a form.of exercise through Yoga, pilatese, mindfulness or simply working out in the gym. Other means include reading, painting, DIY, and any other light hobbies that enable a state of serenity. 

Nevertheless, over the past year and a bit, I have grown to practice having as much time alone as I possibly can. And as a busy student who was engaged in many activities at university, whilst studying full-time as well as working every day, my moments were often ceased in the morning, whilst walking 15 minutes to my bus stop and back home, and over the weekend. This routine consisted of taking deep breaths and meditating whilst on my way. In previous years, my go to distressed was working out at least 2 times a week and making sure that I maintained a healthy diet. However due to circumstances, rather than exercising in the gym my exercise resulted through my walks, which at first seemed a little stressful but eventually became a habit over some time and I began appreciating the moments I did have to myself.

Overall, inner peace takes time to create and time to achieve. It’s a process that cannot be rushed but with time and dedication, can be become the best investment in such little time. Even through a hectic schedule, you will treassure the moment you had to draw up energy, which you initially thought you didnt have. Moreover, the benefits you reap from gaining inner peace allow you to become in sync with yourself mind, body and soul. It allows you to heal and overcome any trauma that you have encountered and overtime help you to love and establish yourself to not only inspire yourself to look after yourself more but the benefits transpire through you and to others who are surround by you. So go ahead and give yourself some time alone. Your body deserves it!