Take that bold leap with no shade

Take that bold leap with no shade

Ever found yourself thinking of something you would say but then realise that you really don’t have the guts to say anything? What’s worse is that in your mind you visualise the actions and how the storyline would unfold. And its not anything malicious.  In fact it could be you asking for help when you feel like you are stuck or even trying to see if that empty seat on the train next to someone is going to be taken by the person standing next to you.

Taking a leap of faith in such situation seems very daunting and perhaps you’re right. But what makes you think that by standing there and mentally living out the scenario, willl help you get to where you really want to be if you don’t take a step out of your comfort zone?

In the recent months I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching. And I’ve come to realise that the things  I want in life are bigger than what my current environment has to offer me. So I’ve been doing a lot of thinking to figgure out, what is it that I really want and how best can I use the resources around me? Looking at my list with all the lines and scribbles, I went through my contact on social media (because we all follow the things we like) and began searching for the right people to ask for help. I attended / put together events with motivational speakers and industry specialists and began to TALK to them. 

T- taking time to

A- cknowledge who they are by

L- earning the way they communicate, to have 

K- lear, bold and consistent conversations with them.

By doing so, I felt less nervous or scared to go back to them and truely ask for the help I really needed. And what the heck, I would even sometimes feel confident enough to ask them there and then. Either way, to take that bold leap means to step out of your comfort zone and boldly work towards what you want – your goals. No shade means that there is no grey area- it is what it is and you reap what you sew.

So today, think of what you really want to achieve in life. Set yourseld goals and check your resources. Then go out and TALK in order to ask.

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B.O.S.S Challenge

B.O.S.S Challenge

Hey Pink Shaders!

So here is a new update. I’ve jumped on the YouTube train and started vlogging *hides face*. To be honest with you, I’ve been uploading for a while but I just hadn’t thought about breaking it to you guys yet. Mainly because I didn’t have enough content to share. I saw it as a fun opportunity to create and share video content of the things that I am passionate about, as well as the things that I am doing, leading up to an event.

It initially started with a school project, which actually required me to vlog the process to the final campaign ad for MAC Cosmetics called ‘#MACnified’. Check the link below!

#MACnified

#MACnified new edit

The original version can’t be viewed in some countries due to the song by Zara Larsson, so I re-edited the video and used our alternative song for the ‘New Edit’ video.

Seeing as I really enjoyed having the camera on me, I thought, hey why not vlog when your travel or other interesting things you do here and there? So I did and I uploaded my ‘Berlin re-cap’ video.

Berlin Re-cap 

So what’s the B.O.S.S. Challenge?

Great question. So you know how some people try to do a 100 day challenge, well I kind of hopped on that same train. For 100 days I have decided (and I came up with it myself) to develop myself body, mind and emotion. It’s a self- development challenge to improve how I see myself, I feel about myself and how I can listen and trust myself more. This is divided up by the 4 areas (4 letters) and essentially the main goal after the 100 day “cleanse” is to become the BOSS of my life.

So here we go…

B- beautiful: feel beautiful inside and out, in order to be beautiful all around.

O- optimistic: be positive, set yourself goals and opportunities and work towards it. 

Self-Assured: know that you have got this! Trust your instincts and have believe in yourself.

Sister: be kind and supportive. The sister to yourself and the the one that people need but not a superwoman to fix their life.

How’s the journey so far?

So far it has been a really good experience. I’ve achieved a lot just by taking baby steps and focusing on at least ine aspect at a time. But there were ofcourse some challenges. Like day 52!  People were talking about “blue monday’ but for me it felt like “blue week”. So many things went wrong  and I felt really stressed out and exhausted this week. Many things that I had been working on were just not going right. I started feeling like I was losing a battle and that possibly, my BOSS challenge journey might just end halfway through the challenge. But I had to remind myself (and I’m glad that I am part of the 100 day network) that I cannot give up on myself because I am not a forfeiture. More so, a challenge is supposed to see some difficulties because before you can go up, you need to experience the steep ride going down. In fact, I’d be contradicting myself if I gave up because the BOSS challenge is the very reason why I am trying to take more control of my life. So yes, it’s not going to be easy but so is life.

So if you want to take control of your life, rather than feeling  whatever then I really hope this is a little wake up call. In fact if you are in a situation where you know that you deserve better and want to reap better opportunities, then I am challenging you to start the 100 day BOSS challenge!

How do I start?

1. Write down your goal. Be realistic but give yourself an opportunity to achieve a step closer to your dreams.

2. Get yourself a notebook. You’re going to need to write your journey on a day to day basis in just a page or less.

3. Subscribe and Interact. I’m going to be uploading content on my YouTube channel (and on this blog too) regular basis. On this journey, you don’t want to be alone, you’re really going to need a community to support and encourage you along g the way.

4. Experience. This challenge requires you working for yourself and training yourself to be a BOSS. This means doing things to help you reach your goal.

FYI… although it’s known to be a 100 days, I have decided to extended my challenge until the end of 2017. So that makes it a 401 day BOSS challenge!!!


Check out my latest vlog- ep8

The attitude and journey to success

The attitude and journey to success

​” Success is not an exception but a prevailing attitude” – John Begin

For a while I have been trying to motivate  myself to get back on track. Back to that confident, high motivated and happy person that I used to be. I started of by writing multiple lists of things that I wanted to achieve but never had the time to pursue  or missed the opportunity because I lacked in confidence to take on that challenge. These ranged from large goals to the smallest; they all carry a significant value that is life changing in many different ways.

The way to look at this is like building your own home. I bet that growing up, you envisioned how big your house would be, how many rooms it will have, the number of bathrooms, the style of the interior design, having a movie room etc. You know to build that dream home in your mind, you engaged in a deep thinking process also known as your imagination, which allowed you to,  plan each aspect of your property. You know very well  that to be able to have that kind of home, you need to have a good job that can provide for that kind of budget. So you start to think of careers that you can imagine yourself being in, so that you can afford that house and the lifestyle that comes with it.

 Bringing this back to my list of things to achieve, I had to imagine what I want to achieve in my future, in order to note it down in my present so that I can work towards the dream becoming real in my future.

Once I felt that my list was somewhat  concluded, I glanced over it with an open mind and asked myself, what is that I can do now to in order to get closer to achieving one of these goals on my list?
So for one of the goals I wanted to drive my own car. That is two things in itself. 1 this meant getting my license and 2 searching for the right car. So in the midst of feeling low and ‘unconfident’ (if that’s even a word), I booked my theory test and once I passed that I booked my practical test. I also searched for driving instructors and I also searched for the types of cars I’d be interested in purchasing.

It took a while and it felt like forever, when it really was a few months but with the little ounce of motivation that I had in myself, I was able to gradually achieve the aspired goal. I applied the same factor to each goal and even included a few more that I was able to achieve.

***Once quoted by legendary BBC presenter “In times of povert abd struggles we have the natural aspiration to do something with our life and times better for ourselves. ***

With time, motivation and perseverance, you will start to notice more ticks of achievements than goals.

“When they go high we go low and when they go low, we go high”- Michelle Obama.
The 2016 US Presidential election brought a lot of high hopes to females. Here stands a woman in a race for the highest postion of a powerful country. She ensured a big fight time what many, as well as myself perceived as a bully.
There will be moments when you wil feel like an opportunity has been stolen from you by somebody you feel is undeserving or incapable of handling what you think is yours. Those are all feelings; and you have the right to have this emotion. But don’t believe that everything offered to you is for you. In life there are 2 explanations for why certain things happen.

All lessons are a blessing and a curse at the same time because we are either able to achieve a new heights or God had another plan for us… Something better.
In the other hand we are in our low stage. We are in the process of being crafted for the next best thing for us. Note “for us”. This means that not everything was created for you.
Tyler Perry’s  infamous character Madea rightly said in a play…  you don’t know why things happen but you best believe that some things happen for a reason or a season. A reason because they are here to teach you a lesson and be out the door or a season, to fill up that empty void until the next best thing is to come.
The road to success is an independent journey that needs to be completed by myself but supported with the people and experience one encounters along the way.  Whether it appears to be good or bad, reason will show itself in future.

Good luck and keep going!

Job hunting after finishing University

Job hunting after finishing University


Job hunting after finishing university is really not that easy. Especially if you are still trying figure yourself out, the career path you’re hoping to pursue  etc. And to be real with you… that is litterally almost every undergraduate and in some cases postgraduate. In my mind, before completing my degree, I thought I knew I had my future all figured out. No really! I had soo many contingency plans just in case one or the other would fail. But guess what, none of them went according to plan and in fact ended up in a different scenario than I really imagined. I even have myself deadlines to meet. But you can’t really have any control as to which organisations pick you, read your application, invite you to an interview and offer you a job. And as a Christian, I  believe that the joke is on you when  you try to out plan God. Oh yes, He will take you of course just to show you who is the boss.

So, I’ve been pretty much looking for a graduate or trainee job for a couple of months now. These jobs are predominantly with the marketing, Events and business development areas. I came across a few roles which I never knew really existed, such as conference producing. Sounds interesting right.  It is if you enjoy finding a topic for large corporations to invest a large amount. What is more, these events can take place anywhere in the world. To me that’s pretty much exciting.

I was called for an interview with one Conference Producing role, which I attended. As per usual, I carried out some independent research  about the company and the role, in order to prepare me when they ask me what I know.  It was the hardest interview I have ever attended. They asked me intricate hypothetical questions to try and throw me off, and then they would question me on everything that I said. Do with that being said, I was always questioning what I had said and whether I had said the right thing. As someone who sometimes struggles to sell herself, I definitely found it quite difficult to drop in my strengths. Now the question is, do I feel like I did my best to answer all the questions? Yes. Did you respond to every question ? Kind of. How c9nfident do you feel that you’ll get a  call back? Not too sure. Is there room for improvements? Definitely! Why? Because there is always room for improvements and we learn as we go to perfect it to one stage, then  go through another process to move to the next level up. I just know that the job for me is waiting round the corner and I just can’t give up just yet!

Life’s Journey

Life’s Journey

So today at church I had the privilege of presenting a bible scripture that means a lot to me from the Church Family Bible. I decided to focus on Matthew 6:6-14, which is the model prayer that Jesus used to teach his disciples how to pray.
6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. 7 And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. 8 Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.
9 “This, then, is how you should pray:
“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10 your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us today our daily bread.
12 And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,[a]
but deliver us from the evil one.[b]’
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Sometimes in life we get too carried away with the things occurring in our day to day life, that we forget to give ourselves a break.
Our hearts and minds go through storms of highs and lows, effectively clouding our judgements on what our actual needs are from our desires. To spend a brief moment in quietness and having that encounter with God is sometimes all that is needed to balance yourself out. God knows what’s best for us because our future was planned way ahead of us. And so when we come to Him, he provides us with our daily dosage of mental, emotional, physical and spiritual food, to keep us going to achieve the things we were destined to do.
And whilst we are on our journey to achieving our destiny, we need to learn to “travel lightly”. Unpack all your worries, your anger and frustrations that you have with other people who have done you wrong INCLUDING OURSELVES. The heavier the load the slower you will be because YOUR LOAD IS JUST TOO MUCH! Give it all too God and let Him deal with it! All of it!
My time with God is spent whilst I’m on my way to work and on my way back. When do you spend your time with God?
Gratitude

Gratitude

Such a simple word that is often defined with words like being “thankful” and “satisfied”. Yet it is one of the hardest words to act out in every living scenario. I mean how many times have you asked and prayed or worked tirelessly for something you wanted so bad, only to be blessed with something that is not quite what you were looking for but it did the job? I bet you it’s been many times! But out of those moments, how many times did you feel content or even excited with your blessings?

See, true and honest gratitude in my eyes is being truly content and satisfied with your blessings. Notice how I said ‘blessings’. It’s because it always comes in a bundle lie a 2 for 1 deal.

Gratitude is not easily practiced and I can vouch for that. It has taken me several months (almost a year) to even try to grasp the concept, as I embarked on my journey on trying to reconnect with my inner self.  You see I was mad at myself for letting myself go in the first place and allowing external features (ie other people, finances, education and geographical location), to control the life that I have to live. More so, I was mad at the sense that I was living a life that tore me away from what I thought would enable me to reconnect with the things I enjoyed doing, such asha going out with my friends, going out to events, shopping or working out 3 times a week.  It was the notion of living in the next town that had busses running to and fro from my university town until 7pm that made me feel like i was being punished. Not only that, I was unaware of the blessing of having a part-time job with the university, whereby my Managers were flexible with my hours. 

Nevertheless, little did I know that by taking myself away from any of the temptations of beings young free woman by going out on a regular basis and focusing less on my education, I probably wouldn’t have the ability to manage my time wisely.  Nor do I believe that I would have acquired the professional attitude that I have today, to deal with difficult clients. In addition to that, I gradually got to understand that the long 15 minute walk between my house and the bus stop, was basically my morning ritual to appreciate nature and be thankful for having this moment of being able to live and breathe one more day.

Sometimes we get so caught up in what we thought life would be if life was like this. And so we work hard, sometimes aimlessly towards this goal, and then the result ends up not entirely matching our estimated goal or maybe not at all. So we become discontent by the situation, allowing further negativity to enter our minds and our paths, without even realising. So as time progresses, we either continue to fight fate or give up on ourselves by contesting our minds with statements like “oh that’s is never going to happen now that…” Or ” I really don’t know why I even decided to even bother with this, it was going to go this way anyway”. But that is not always the case. In every case there es a distinct reason as to why you landed in this situation. Maybe it was something that you asked for that wasn’t properly communicated or perhaps, this is your “training” season to prepare you for what is about to come your way (either what you were hoping for or something better than what you anticipated). But to find out this purpose, you need to be content with what you have or have been given for now. Once you have entirely settled with this contentment and have come to terms that this is what it is right now, you will start to understand each “failed” reason.

In all what I am trying to say is that gratitude= being gracious with attitude.

Everything happens for a reason but it’s down to you, to be happy with what you have, before another door of opportunity is opened up for you. So don’t beat yourself down. Start by saying “thank you” to all the good and bad moments and trust me, you will gradually start to see your life differently from your “control room”.