Getting ready for 2018 – BOSSChallenge Sign Up today

Getting ready for 2018 – BOSSChallenge Sign Up today

My oh my has this year gone by so quickly! I can still remember this time last year when I took part in challenge 100 and launched, like it was just last week. But hey, if the year went by very quickly, it means that the year was a good year for you. We know this from the times we had so much fun, time just seems to fly by like a rolling tide. Of course, the fact that we are near the end of 2017, this means that we need to start getting prepared for the next year that is set to come in a matter of days.
And I was thinking, if I had the power to write my future for the year 2018, how and what would I like to happen? I think it would be a great way to set myself up and prepare myself with goals that would make 2018 interesting and successful.

Here are two things to get yourself prepped!

1) #BOSSChallenge100

I know it’s a little later than I had hoped but the BOSS Challenge will be starting on the 4th December (basically in a few days). If you’re a little unfamiliar about this challenge I will quickly brief you on it in less words than my original post (click here to read more about the BOSS Challenge). The BOSS Challenge or now #BOSSChallenge100 is a 100-day positivity cleanse for females to feel and be empowered. Each day, each BOSSer is required to apply at least one of the BOSS attributes, to encourage their personal development. These are Beautiful, Optimistic/Opportunist, Self-Assured, Sister. During these 100 days you will be either in contact with other BOSSers or receive frequent email notifications from me to keep the move going.

If you would like to take part, sign up TODAY by sending me an email thaliebrown@gmail.com or find me on Facebook @ThalieBrown. Don’t worry it’s FREE.

2) Vision Board

I really enjoyed making my vision board. I felt like a little kid literally tearing magazines and newspapers apart and sticking images onto card board… Almost like having an Argos catalogue and, sticking and cutting everything up for your dream house. This year I’m coming up prepared with a better and more concise plan  for 2018 (Not to say that the vision board for 2017 wasn’t too realistic enough). With this board, I hope to set myself the right goals that will take me one step closer to where I want to be in life, and I’d suggest that you do the same for yourself too, so that we can all celebrate a successful 2018!

Oh and yes!

And maybe a third point to add…

I have a new travel vlog that’s up on my YouTube channel! Just click here to view.

That’s it from me.

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Making Executive Decisions

Making Executive Decisions

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Hey what’s up PinkShaders!

I know its been a hot minute and maybe since I last posted but your girl has been cooking up some projects that are manefesting themselves into something really exciting. I also celebrated my 25th birthday on a private beach in Ghana (may not be much of deal to some of you but it was the best birthday I ever had! Vlog available on my YouTube channel). So what’s been holding me up? I’ve been working on maximising my potential to better myself (reference to my #BOSSChallenge click here to see my latest travel and subscribe to my channel! xxx

For the past 2 months or so, I’ve picked up another blogging gig at Final Call Production and have started a master programme in International Business Management. This is in addition to my YouTube channel (which I know has had a few delays but will explain further below), still mentoring young people and working on a few secret projects *wink*. These are just a few examples of my initiatives to make an executive decision for my own personal life  and is a choice to pursue the things I know and hope, will spark something in future.

Now on to what this blog post is really about….

Those around me would have heard me say this a thoussand times and probably even more. It’s litterally been my personal tagline/ motto for the year and honestly an encouragement to help me make direct decisions and take responsibility of my own actions, life and future. I cannot stress how important it is to take responsibility on making decisions that affect YOUR own life.

Up until 2 years ago, I used to be told what to do and blame any mishaps on those who had a bigger say on what I ought to do with MY LIFE, MY GOALS and MY DREAMS.


As an Executive or BOSS of your life.

One of my favourite bible quotes that I translate into my own words (and totally applicable to this concept) is “You reap what you sew”. In other words you make a decision + you put the energy in = you reap the benefit.
If you decide to reap whatever without actually putting any energy in, you’re not exercising control and in that sense arr runnning on sheer luck and total reliance on the energy of others… trust me your luck will run out and what you expect may turn out to be the complete opposite to what you really want or need.

Another reason why executive decisions making is so important in life, is because, I’m tired of re-doing the things that aren’t up to my standards. Delegating work is part of the job of being an executive. And if you are able to demonstrate that ability successfully and up to your standards, then kudos to you. However,
when you have a goal that is not common with the person(s) you are deligating the task to, then the likelihood of achieving the same common goal is slim or barely existent.
In fact quite often (and be sure to let me know if you have experienced the same thing).. I have come to realise that whenever I trust someone with the most important project/ high level task to complete something, I often find myself having to re-do or takeover the work because it didn’t meet my qualities and thus realise that I am relying on others to do what I can do better and my way.

Now, 2017 is already coming to an end and the question I have for you is, are you not tired of being let down by people whom you have relied one too many responsibilities that are way too important to you? At this moment in our life, we need to think.. “what is that one thing holding me up from reaching that set goal?” and what different course of actioms will I need to pursue to ensure that I am no longer delayed.

Sit yourself down today and make that executive decision to hold yourself more accountable to your life and what you wish to achieve in the month or even year(s) to come.

Reclaiming my time

Reclaiming my time

I am so tired of running around unproductively. Living a life of an empty yet busy routine, day after day and going to bed thinking of what my life could have been had I just followed my dreams rather than listening to the persuasive suggestions of those who seem to care about my future. Don’t get me wrong. We should always appreciate those who think of us whether good or bad because it allows us to practice our reasoning and thought process to outweigh the pros and cons of our decisions.

Growing up, my days as a young maestro in performing arts, international relations, languages and a little entrepreneur (if I may say so), I was given ample advice on what to do next with my life and what career I should pursue. Become a lawyer” they would say, or, “a minister of Foreign Affairs, translator or a manager”. It was annoying but also kind of funny. The disregard for my sense of creativity despite being in performing arts school and taking leading roles on more than 4 occasions! Not saying I’m the best but that was just what I did.
All these different careers began to take over my mind and as time went on and got to a stage where I needed to make a ‘final decision’ on the career path I deem to live my life on and make my living, I began to panic. I began to fall into the category of ‘I don’t know what I want to be, I don’t know what to do’. I became even more confused as I continued to look for more council.

Now how many of you have found yourself right here? Leave a comment below to let me know how that’s been working out.

I’ve now a graduated with an honors degree in business. As proud as I am of this achievement, I still feel like parts of me is missing. Quite frankly I’d love to relive m dreams of when I was younger but I look at how long ago that was and it would make me upset that the time to do everything may have passed.

For years I felt torn between the things I wanted to do and careers that I was told that seemed ‘fit for me’. But listening to pastor Devon Franklin’s sermon at the Potter’s House One church LA titled ‘Reclaiming my Time’ (hence the title- look below for the YouTube link), I am finally hearing my alarm clock ringing after feeling it buzzing for such a long time. By the way… in case you don’t know much about him, he is a pastor and a film producer with his own film production company. You may recognize one of his movies- ‘Jumping the broom’ (one of my faves). So it made me think. How is it possible to be a preacher and still pursuing a dream that many (including those that gave me council) perceive to be unfit and also not a path worth for me to even consider? It’s possible.

So listen. What I’m really trying to say is that time is the most valuable currency we have in life and on this earth. Your childhood dreams were given to you for a reason. Your talents to pursue are still within you, only if you truly wish and make it your aim to keep trying until you get there. Time has not yet run out.

So stop hitting that snooze button and start reclaiming your time!

 

 

 

Why Wait? Just Keep Walking

Why Wait? Just Keep Walking

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Life is compiled of a journey filled with multiple stops and diversions. And as you are going through life trying to get through a journey from one stop to the next, there will be times where you are provided with the options where you can take a shortcut or quicker option such as a bus that will allow you to get to your destination a lot quicker than your usual walking pace (obviously). Now what you need to know is that this bus that’s presented to you tends to arrive a little later and you might have to just stand there and wait. but you know full well that you can’t just wait and sit there, expecting for things like this shortcut to help you out immediately when you want it.

So you make the decision to start walking because at least you know you’re getting closer to where you need to go rather than just standing there and waiting. As you’re walking start to walk and you see the bus go past you, once, twice, three times, four times, five times. Multiple times, this same bus drives past you as you are walking. people will think you are a fool. Even the bus driver would think you’re a fool because how is it possible to miss the same bus that many times and the bus is still going to your place.

What I’m trying to say is that a shortcut with an easy route isn’t always accessible. every time I was walking the bus nowhere near the closest bus stop and the time it was supposed to come it didn’t come, it came at a different time that didn’t meet the time where I was going to be there. so I ask myself, do I want to wait for it again? and wait for the shortcut to come and pick me up or do I want to make sure I still make it to my destination at my own pace? so you need to remember, in life you still need to keep going at it, whatever you are doing to achieve a goal, keep walking because you’re still going to make it to the same destination. you’re going to be given that space to think and accept your journey. that is the blessing of walking through your journey and sometimes by just giving that shortcut a miss because I’m able to have fresh air, think of the things I need to do instead of having to RUSH RUSH RUSH and not being able to accept the journey (my journey). every journey makes our story unique. the more journeys you have the more you’re able to experience and relate to people.

I hope this inspires you to keep going and doing the things on your journey, despite the times that people will call you a fool.

Vegan for Vegetarian Week- Oh My!

Vegan for Vegetarian Week- Oh My!

It’s Vegetarian week this week and for a while I have been having the urge to stick to just eating veg and ditching the near. Now for my meat loving friends its a huge shocker but the reality is that in the recent weeks I’ve started loosing appetite for eating meats and have subconsciously been selecting vegetarian options instead. This is not the first time I’ve been vegetarian, in fact I see myself as a “flexitarian”. This means that I flex between being a vegetarian, pescatarian and straight up meatlover. In the past, I have been vegetarian from a month to 3 years. It’s usually until it wears off. So you’re probably wondering “why”? Well my friends, I’m yet to still figure this out for myself.

But as mentioned previously, it’s vegetarian week and I thought to myself, I wonder what it would be like to take my eating lifestyle to another level, by being vegan for a week. I’ve never done this before but I know for a fact that I have had vegan days without realising and I’m pretty sure most of you would have had experienced the same if you think about. Now before you talk smack about how vegans are like rabbits eating leaves and carrots or how you always have meat or fish in every meal, I would like you to think of a time when you ran out of meat/ fish/ milk/ cheese and you had to complete your meal without it? Or you felt peckish and wanted to grab a quick snack so you bought packet of oreos? See? Well I have a few more examples that I actually realised for myself.

1. pasta and tomato sauce without any meat or cheese (because you didn’t have any)

2. Crisp/ chips

3. Veg Fried rice/ Rice and peas / Jellof rice on its own

4. Chow mein

5. Oreos/ Ritz crackers

6. Aunt Jamaica’s pancake

7. Bagels/ Bread and margarine

8. Income Instant noodles (fried onion and fried noodles flavour).

And there are more!

Being a vegan sounds really daunting. One thing I  must is that being a vegan on day 3 has been an absolute eye opener to realising the lack of options there are available when you’re out in public and you don’t have your packed lunch. I pretty much feel like I’m left with no choice other than eating snacks like crisps, nuts or fruits, just to get me through the day. And if I really wanted something to eat, I would have to ask the food place for the ingredients to ensure it was actually vegan friendly or result to eating salad. For this reason I feel like it’s definitely more expensive to be vegan when you are out, than when you have a pantry full of options on what to cook for yourself at home.

What’s more, I nearly fell into the trap of accidentally eating mac ‘n’ cheese all because I was craving a cheese and onion slice from the bakery today, until I realised that I was trying out the vegan diet! Clearly I have been tempted to already give in. Luckily, I saw a Burrito place and was able to order myself a really nice and juicy naked burrito without cheese and sour cream but with extra guacamole.

KUDOS to all the vegans out there. I’m going to be strong and try it out for a week but if I give in, it is not my fault *hides face* I just don’t think a complete vegan life is for me just yet.

Let me know if you’re participating in Vegetarian week or if you are a vegan by commenting on this post. It would be interesting to hear on the different takes on people’s experience.

The attitude and journey to success

The attitude and journey to success

​” Success is not an exception but a prevailing attitude” – John Begin

For a while I have been trying to motivate  myself to get back on track. Back to that confident, high motivated and happy person that I used to be. I started of by writing multiple lists of things that I wanted to achieve but never had the time to pursue  or missed the opportunity because I lacked in confidence to take on that challenge. These ranged from large goals to the smallest; they all carry a significant value that is life changing in many different ways.

The way to look at this is like building your own home. I bet that growing up, you envisioned how big your house would be, how many rooms it will have, the number of bathrooms, the style of the interior design, having a movie room etc. You know to build that dream home in your mind, you engaged in a deep thinking process also known as your imagination, which allowed you to,  plan each aspect of your property. You know very well  that to be able to have that kind of home, you need to have a good job that can provide for that kind of budget. So you start to think of careers that you can imagine yourself being in, so that you can afford that house and the lifestyle that comes with it.

 Bringing this back to my list of things to achieve, I had to imagine what I want to achieve in my future, in order to note it down in my present so that I can work towards the dream becoming real in my future.

Once I felt that my list was somewhat  concluded, I glanced over it with an open mind and asked myself, what is that I can do now to in order to get closer to achieving one of these goals on my list?
So for one of the goals I wanted to drive my own car. That is two things in itself. 1 this meant getting my license and 2 searching for the right car. So in the midst of feeling low and ‘unconfident’ (if that’s even a word), I booked my theory test and once I passed that I booked my practical test. I also searched for driving instructors and I also searched for the types of cars I’d be interested in purchasing.

It took a while and it felt like forever, when it really was a few months but with the little ounce of motivation that I had in myself, I was able to gradually achieve the aspired goal. I applied the same factor to each goal and even included a few more that I was able to achieve.

***Once quoted by legendary BBC presenter “In times of povert abd struggles we have the natural aspiration to do something with our life and times better for ourselves. ***

With time, motivation and perseverance, you will start to notice more ticks of achievements than goals.

“When they go high we go low and when they go low, we go high”- Michelle Obama.
The 2016 US Presidential election brought a lot of high hopes to females. Here stands a woman in a race for the highest postion of a powerful country. She ensured a big fight time what many, as well as myself perceived as a bully.
There will be moments when you wil feel like an opportunity has been stolen from you by somebody you feel is undeserving or incapable of handling what you think is yours. Those are all feelings; and you have the right to have this emotion. But don’t believe that everything offered to you is for you. In life there are 2 explanations for why certain things happen.

All lessons are a blessing and a curse at the same time because we are either able to achieve a new heights or God had another plan for us… Something better.
In the other hand we are in our low stage. We are in the process of being crafted for the next best thing for us. Note “for us”. This means that not everything was created for you.
Tyler Perry’s  infamous character Madea rightly said in a play…  you don’t know why things happen but you best believe that some things happen for a reason or a season. A reason because they are here to teach you a lesson and be out the door or a season, to fill up that empty void until the next best thing is to come.
The road to success is an independent journey that needs to be completed by myself but supported with the people and experience one encounters along the way.  Whether it appears to be good or bad, reason will show itself in future.

Good luck and keep going!

Love thy neighbour and yourself

Love thy neighbour and yourself

​I’ve recently noticed how easily I get mad at myself when things don’t go right. I blame myself for making the little mistakes, which result to greater mishaps such as grabbing a bottle of water from the fridge, only to realise that it was actually in the pantry. Those extra steps would therefore cause further delays in me missing my first bus and unevetably my second and third bus for work. On the contrary, I found it a lot easier to forgive others who have either done wrong to me or let me down in situations whereby I desperately needed their support. 

This form of dissatisfaction can easily lead to further consequences like laxk of self respect, distust as well as creatibg new fears, causing more harm to yourself and possibly lead to depression and anxiety. So to break this self- destructive path of mine, I’m making a conscious decision to make peace with myself and to appreciate the positive and negative events that occur in life.

The reason why I decided to give this segment  this title is because I believe it is just as important to forgive yourself as it is to forgive others around you. It’s this notion of finding your balance and that peace that you have with you inner self and the outside environment. Be it the physical environment ie nature, the location and or society, mental, emotional and the spiritual environment that we are constantly surrounded by.

Gratitude

Gratitude

Such a simple word that is often defined with words like being “thankful” and “satisfied”. Yet it is one of the hardest words to act out in every living scenario. I mean how many times have you asked and prayed or worked tirelessly for something you wanted so bad, only to be blessed with something that is not quite what you were looking for but it did the job? I bet you it’s been many times! But out of those moments, how many times did you feel content or even excited with your blessings?

See, true and honest gratitude in my eyes is being truly content and satisfied with your blessings. Notice how I said ‘blessings’. It’s because it always comes in a bundle lie a 2 for 1 deal.

Gratitude is not easily practiced and I can vouch for that. It has taken me several months (almost a year) to even try to grasp the concept, as I embarked on my journey on trying to reconnect with my inner self.  You see I was mad at myself for letting myself go in the first place and allowing external features (ie other people, finances, education and geographical location), to control the life that I have to live. More so, I was mad at the sense that I was living a life that tore me away from what I thought would enable me to reconnect with the things I enjoyed doing, such asha going out with my friends, going out to events, shopping or working out 3 times a week.  It was the notion of living in the next town that had busses running to and fro from my university town until 7pm that made me feel like i was being punished. Not only that, I was unaware of the blessing of having a part-time job with the university, whereby my Managers were flexible with my hours. 

Nevertheless, little did I know that by taking myself away from any of the temptations of beings young free woman by going out on a regular basis and focusing less on my education, I probably wouldn’t have the ability to manage my time wisely.  Nor do I believe that I would have acquired the professional attitude that I have today, to deal with difficult clients. In addition to that, I gradually got to understand that the long 15 minute walk between my house and the bus stop, was basically my morning ritual to appreciate nature and be thankful for having this moment of being able to live and breathe one more day.

Sometimes we get so caught up in what we thought life would be if life was like this. And so we work hard, sometimes aimlessly towards this goal, and then the result ends up not entirely matching our estimated goal or maybe not at all. So we become discontent by the situation, allowing further negativity to enter our minds and our paths, without even realising. So as time progresses, we either continue to fight fate or give up on ourselves by contesting our minds with statements like “oh that’s is never going to happen now that…” Or ” I really don’t know why I even decided to even bother with this, it was going to go this way anyway”. But that is not always the case. In every case there es a distinct reason as to why you landed in this situation. Maybe it was something that you asked for that wasn’t properly communicated or perhaps, this is your “training” season to prepare you for what is about to come your way (either what you were hoping for or something better than what you anticipated). But to find out this purpose, you need to be content with what you have or have been given for now. Once you have entirely settled with this contentment and have come to terms that this is what it is right now, you will start to understand each “failed” reason.

In all what I am trying to say is that gratitude= being gracious with attitude.

Everything happens for a reason but it’s down to you, to be happy with what you have, before another door of opportunity is opened up for you. So don’t beat yourself down. Start by saying “thank you” to all the good and bad moments and trust me, you will gradually start to see your life differently from your “control room”.